Thank you all for this! He was waiting for my sister to get home so that my car didnt get left in the parking lot. My dear husband decides its a good idea to take a work call on the bluetooth/speakers in the car! Drinking Wine to Induce Labor: What to Know - webmd.com My water had broken at 6pm while I was at work, they wouldnt allow me to drive home and the doc said it was too early to come in so I waited over an hour for my now ex husband to pick me up. I was furious! Well, watched is a bit strong, but it was on the entire time! I said we didnt have that kind of time that Id gone from 5cm-8cm in 35 minutes. Alcoholism is a serious addiction that can affect both the addict and those around them. The *only* reason I left the room when she was in labor was to go to the bathroom. Mortified. Want to have a happier, healthier marriage? I would be concerned about YH having 5 drinks in one night on a regular basis. I agree not to do it when he's about to grab a drink because then he will just get irritated with you. About 15 minutes or so later I hear my wife come in the house and call out to let me know she was home. The local McDonald's owner, Steve Akinboro, rewarded . He had fallen back asleep. I ended up having a C-section and he decided it would be best if he waited in the recovery room instead of coming into the E.R. We asked around and found 10 different ways women knew they were in labor. Van Jefferson, Wife Samaria Welcome Second Baby Mid-Super Bowl - Peoplemag I dont remember anything I said or did after that. around 9 he came to bed, moved me over and tried to go to sleep. My husband devours some of the Popeyes chicken and then comes back in and sits with me and then falls asleep. if you need help handling your marriage with a spouse trying to overcome addiction. Now, I love Firefly, but I will forever associate Captain Malcolm Reynolds saying I swear by my pretty floral bonnet, I will end you with the start of the worst pain of my life. If we go anywhere and he has more than 2 drinks I drive home. She was great because she understood. The most common mistake a wife often makes is that she starts blaming herself for her alcoholic husband. So here I am in the passenger seat, in labor, trying (graciously, mind you) to keep my moaning down so he can make this call. I am not supporting buzz driving at all - but, it is amazing how much a woman in labor will sober up a man. Well, after 21 years we are still happily married and you have to realize that you have to take the good with the bad. And please feel free to add your husbands own egregious efforts below. Women need to put their foot down. I would be wasted if I had 5 drinks. Alcoholics don't just drink hard liquorWTF? I did tell him that HE would be the one calling them letting them know the situation. There is absolutely a possibility she'll go into labor and need him. He at Popeyes and now she is here yelling bout the fact he ate. Well, setting up limits for them. We couldnt wake him up, he was barely opening his eyes when the baby crowned. My mom would have been my birth coach. He ran away because he said he had business at work he had to attend to. With this next one, were doing a home birth, so no monitors, but I still anticipate him being so busy talking that hes not really focused on me. Well, theyre in denial because they believe theyre not creating any problems due to overdrinking. Hours in labor: Never went into labor! The best way to cope with your stress and maintain a positive attitude is to stay focused on your goals and avoid situations that may trigger the urge to drink. The. She arranged transportation to the hospital from our neighbors. My mom always tells the story of when she was in labor with my sister, on Thanksgiving Day, and somewhere around 20-so hours of labor my dad ate a full Thanksgiving dinner, turkey drumstick and all, right in front of her. My husband was awesome! Madeline Harding. husband drunk when i went into labor 2022. rpi women's hockey: schedule. no one to watch my kids when I go into labor | BabyCenter 9. He almost passed out and had his own team of nurses and MY midwife helping him. Fine. I will never know. Mine wasnt nearly as bad as these more just funny. One day shell remember to leave the meat out for tea but until then she writes beautiful and amusing posts on her blog which you can find here:http://bernmorley.blogspot.com/, i'm horrible at arguing. Why would you say that to me in THE THROES OF LABOR? Honestly more hurt that thats more important, then it is funny! Hubby was very excited and solicitous and kept asking how I was and what did I need. Then she told me to leave. You don't want him to not be able to function when the baby needs to be cared for during the night. Have you ever told him that? If at all possible, secure a back-up. Have you ever discussed this with friends and inquired about how much their husbands drink? Why We Chose NOT to Induce Labor - thehumbledhomemaker.com took a look and her and said he was glad it was over and that she looked like a spider monkey. I went into Labor at 1AM after Superbowl Sunday - DH drank a good part of the day and night and had gone to bed around 11 that. -Anne, When the nurses asked how bad the pain was from 1-10 and I said 10, my husband said oh, come on it cant be that bad. Do Hurricanes Really Make Pregnant Women Go Into Labor? - The Atlantic He replied that he didnt feel so well. Or a little bit of both? Mine said I was making a spectacle of myself while in an induced labor with back to back contractions. Hopefully our midwife keeps him in line. good luck! Well of course the pain increased dramatically and the nurse, watching the monitor, kept commenting on it soothingly, so I figured hubby was right there with me. My wife had a 24 hour labor that ended up in an emergency c-section. HELLO! When he got home, he dropped his phone in a stock pot that was soaking in the sink. My husband took nearly two hours to have lunch with his mom at the hospital, after he had been helping me through contractions all morning. With my second I was in labor through the night, his dad kept asking if he could go home to sleep because I didnt need him there, he missed his bed and the hospital staff was disrupting his sleep. Lydia Swortzel, 36, went into labor at 21 weeks with identical twins after seven years of infertility. Promote a faster and healthier labor. If he won't deal with that, you should. Thats when the smell of a thousand beers hit me. Normally, contractions begin before the water breaks. I thought that was all obvious to DH but apparently I was wrong. Not during labor, but our almost 10 pound baby ended up in the NICU for low oxygen saturation. How pregnant: 41 weeks, 2 days. By the way, he would never drive while drinking, he thought it would be completely fine to call an ambulance to take me to the hospital if he's drunk. Oh, yeah, I am sure he will slow it down. I wish men weren't so stupid about some things. He did much better the second time. Haha! He said hed save me a few slices for later. Life with an alcoholic husband is tough. Im not sure where to start with my story and it has been 20 years and fresh in my mind. Yes, keep telling her that labor will sober him right up, and that he has to sit in the waiting room if he is buzzed, because that's totally the right answer. Sylvia Smith loves to share insights on how couples can revitalize their love lives in and out of the bedroom. I asked for all the ridiculous stuff your husbands pulled while you were in labor. As a writer at Marriage.com, she is a big believer in living consciously and encourages couples to adopt this principle in their lives too. To his credit, he sprung out of bed, I rang my best friend and she came to look after Maddie and Sam. This, I really think that you need to convey how important it is to you and the baby, then make sure that he realizes how serious you are that you NEED a coach to help get you through this and if he is to drunk to do it then you will find someone else and he will be relegated to the waiting room. Will I Go Into Labor? 25 Signs Baby's Coming - Trimester Talk I was asking in honor of my pregnant sister (aka Dr. B) and planning on posting some watch-outs for my very nervous brother-in-law before the big event. Am I in Labor? 10 Moms Share How They Knew It Was 'Time' - CafeMom.com (But I still decided to stay 2 more hours at home because the nurse said to wait it out when I called them. These are hilarious! He finally agreed, but not until he took a shower and fixed himself breakfast! You may come across situations where things go beyond your control, and you might end up in an embarrassing situation. My car, my car! he said with horror. All I am saying is that it will probably work itself out in the end. Sexuality has nothing to do with a persons character or supportiveness. He moved there from the recliner when I got up to walk down the hall to get myself a drink. That was a mistake. When my contractions were less than 2mins apart, I told my husband we needed to leave. She never left my side, fed me frozen Gatorade chips for hours, and knew exactly what to do(and by the way, shes never been pregnant and never wanted to be.). 26 years of marriage has taught me to make sure she is comfortable and has what she needs first and to be honest about what I need. I had to be induced. He went to smoke a cigarette before the midwife came to see me,and by the time he got back, I was already pushing. since the 4th month. First is, do you have a backup person who can be there for you? Hes pretty lucky the epidural finally kicked in halfway through their lunch date! I think you should talk with him about this (perhaps a counselor as well if talking to him alone won't work? I know the tone has gotten pretty intense, but it shouldn't interfere with the central message: the behavior you're describing in your husband is binge drinking, and the more often he does it, the worse off your family will be. I wouldnt have had more babys with a guy who could care less that I was having the first.. How could you have any more kids with someone after that are u crazy. Its never easy to be with an alcoholic husband, but these things can surely help. I went into labor while he was sitting in the bay, alone in a boat. Its not a movie wherein things change quickly. When they called my room at 3 am to go nurse her, my husband declined to go with me because he was just so tired after everything that happened that day. Labour won't "sober him up" and make it safe for him to drive. Ive got girlfriends who pretty much just lay it all on the table. he replied no it didnt and rolled over to try and go back to sleep. AITA for asking my husband to not drink on his 30th birthday? He will NEVER live that down. My husband was asleep in the chair and when they woke him up, he walked over to me and said, My foot hurts. REALLY? There was a family business. Apparently i was keeeping him awake. I didn't want my husband in the delivery room - Today's Parent I have pictures to prove it. Why do I remember the date so well? My water broke in the middle of the night, we made our way to the hospital and once we arrived i was put in a wheel chair, wheeled into the elevator and left unable to walk because of pain while my husband went to find a free parking spot. I went it alone and met up with him after surgery where he was holding the baby smiling, refreshed and relieved. Thanks for sticking with us for a full year. Most of the responses ignore the real issues, blame it on men being stupid, or just excuse his behavior. Around 2am, I heard the scraping of a badly manoeuvred BBQ onto the deck and felt my husband flop down beside me into the bed. LOL, I love that Firefly episode!